My nephew’s auntie on his dad’s side of the family was a lesbian. Her companion even had a sex change operation.
Later auntie meets a man at work and falls in love. She is no longer a lesbian.
This is the kind of thing that puts a lie to the expression, “born this way”. People make choices in their lives, and choosing to be sexually promiscuous, as the majority of male homosexuals are, results in a miserable life.
You asked about the proper response. Well, no one was negative to auntie. All of her family just wanted her to be happy. She had to find out for herself and in truth, no one can do that for antoher. It has to come from inside.
If they’re “born this way”, why do they have to recruit?