As someone who tries to be a Christian, though not a very good one, I have to deal what Jesus taught about judging others. Judging others in the context of sitting on a jury, or figuring out if a potential babysitter has a violent history and such is a good thing. But judging in the sense of condemning somebody in your heart as not being worthy as a human being, and thinking the worst you can of them instead of hoping for the best for them is forbidden. Its hard to follow some times, and some times I may only follow this in a patronizing way. But it is what christians are called to do.
I,too,am a Christian...a noticeably imperfect one.But tell me....if one or both of a child's parents fail that child in a substantial way,in a completely avoidable way...can that parent be held responsible to any degree for the child in question "going wrong"?
I think you know what I'm driving at and I have no evidence that that happened with Martin but I still have the hunch that it did.