You are right there. I was friends at school with a black girl who used to always make remarks to me about “N***** this” and “N*****that,” and “Tonight Ima meet my N****z at the club,” and one day I said, “Why do you say stuff like that???!” Her response was, “Because it makes me laugh when you cringe.” She found it highly entertaining.
Ever been in a room full of people of all races and the word nigger pops out of a black on black salutation? The only uncomfortable ones are the whites. Next time look around, see if I am not correct.
It use to be that the most stressful situation other than death is speaking in front of a crowd. Not even close to a white person being called a racist.