How about they start showing some self respect.
A lot of blacks where I live have some innate drive to wear the fanciest clothes, drive HUGE tricked out cars you know they can’t afford ...rims ...what have you.
Here I am, a middle class white woman and we earn a comfortable living ...but I just don’t feel the slightest need to show it. I drive a small compact car and usually dress in just jeans and a t-shirt. Nothing special. In fact, I almost feel uncomfortable drawing attention to myself or flaunting wealth.
They need to stop trying to prove whatever it is they’re trying to prove. It seems THEY feel inferior, and I think the whole ghetto act somehow helps them to feel better about themselves in some way.
They just need to calm down and accept themselves, for once ...stop the crazy gang banger act and the ghetto talk. Dress and talk normally and don’t get into debt over trying to look like royalty. Just BE. And then go to bed early so they can get up early FOR WORK.
Like we do. Every night, without fail, until its time to take your 2-week vacation that comes once a year.
We actually know a black couple just like this ..they call themselves black nerds. They shouldn’t do that. They’re just smart, regular working people ... and they have nothing to prove.
It’s definitions. The traits you describe have been widely accepted as “authentically black.”
Which means of course that people like the black couple you describe are defined as “inauthentically black,” or even as “acting white.”
I think a good bit of this has been encouraged by white elites who get a frisson of danger out of being around or even just knowing about blacks of this type. While they themselves lead, in many ways, the boring middle-class lifestyle they denigrate to their black pets.
The problem is that the boring old middle-class virtues can be ignored to a considerable extent by actually middle-class people without immediate major danger to their lives. Rich elites can of course get away with a great deal.
But the middle class virtues are absolutely essential for those who want to climb out of poverty into middle class status.
This is one of the keys to the disparity of net worth, I believe. I was listening to a lady cutting hair talk about all the vacations she has taken and will take this year. Places I wouldn't think of trying to afford.