We lost a great great great great grandfather in the border war. They took him off on a horse and the family never saw him again. This happened in South Missouri. My fathers family never wanted us to live in Kansas to this day. Not that I am tempted. Blech
Western Missouri was apparently a corridor that was alternately under Union and Confederate control. The loss of life was horrible and the total population of Jasper County, Missouri, after the Civil War was 36. (The population before the war was over 600)