Very Nice. Be calm about getting your mother over there. She may not want to be there yet.
Thanks...when I told her I couldn’t get the wheelchair over there, the look on her face said that she wasn’t ready. She’s been pushing to go, but she is not ready. (The grass/ground is not level and if she goes down, I can’t get her up by myself. Major knee issues.)
And for the first time I saw a couple tears. She asked if I felt him there. I did feel that he was at peace, but she feels him at home all the time. I blew up a Christmas picture from a few years ago and it sits on her desk. She talks to him all the time and see changes in his smile. Another picture and some of his ashes are on the mantle....
I took more pictures, showed them to her and she said she wasn’t ready to let go. Maybe getting closer to his headstone would do that. You are right...she is NOT ready, but she got to see where he is, and where she will join him some day.
As we drove slowly back thru the cemetery, finding our bearings on the map, she said.....”I’m ready anytime. Things that have been bothering me have been resolved”. (I think having all the siblings here, all the talking and chatting, etc., everyone speaking to everyone else, has given her that peace.)
She’s not in any way giving up, but she is at peace.