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After heartbreak, generous jilted bride finds some joy
St. Paul Pioneer Press ^ | 10/15/13 | Molly Guthrey

Posted on 10/15/2013 5:52:02 PM PDT by rhema

A jilted bride is experiencing a different sort of happy ending than the one she was expecting.

But first, the heartbreak:

"I got the phone call on Aug. 10," said Michelle Marxen, 26, a pediatric nurse from Fargo, N.D.

Her fiance was on the other line; the news was not good.

By the time the betrothed said goodbye, their wedding -- set for Oct. 19 -- was off.

"It's hard to explain why, because I never really got an explanation," Marxen says.

First, she grieved.

"I went through the 'Whys?' and the uncontrollable crying," Marxen says.

After she dried her tears, the jilted bride realized that breaking up with the wedding vendors could not be accomplished with a mere phone call.

"Contracts are contracts," Marxen says.

Marxen and her parents -- who were funding the wedding and reception for 275 to 300 guests -- talked it over.

"It had to be paid for," says the bride's mother, Julie Marxen. "So we're, like, 'If it has to be paid for, why doesn't somebody use it?' That's how it all started."

"We wondered how we could turn this into something positive," Marxen says.

The answer came through helping others: Specifically, by donating the reserved Ramada ballroom reception site in Fargo, N.D., and the food budget -- even the wedding photographer and the photo booth -- to Creative Care for Reaching Independence (CCRI), a nonprofit based in Moorhead, Minn., that serves people with disabilities. The estimated value of this gift is close to five figures.

"The bride's mother called me and told me, 'We have this venue reserved, but the wedding won't happen; would you be able to use it? And the food? And two photographers for 10 hours? And a limousine?" says Jody Hudson, development director for CCRI. "As she kept adding things, I couldn't believe it."

After the shock, she accepted.

"Who doesn't like a good party?" Hudson says.

Instead of a wedding reception on Oct. 19, the ballroom was scheduled to be rocking out with a Halloween party for CCRI's clients and their families.

"Most of the people we serve are on a very limited income," Hudson says. "This is something many of them have never done before, to go to a fancy party in a crystal ballroom."

"I heard that one client was so excited that he immediately put on his Halloween costume," Marxen says. "That put a smile on my face. I think it was the start of my healing process."

Marxen said she wouldn't be attending the party. She and her parents planned to fly to Las Vegas to visit a friend.

"To get my mind off my wedding," Marxen says. "I hope to be lying by a pool on Saturday."

Marxen's happy ending isn't really about the Vegas sun, though; it's about how she changed her story -- a story that has since gone viral after a local television station first told the public about her gift.

"I don't want this to be a story about someone breaking my heart," Marxen says. "It's a story about making something really good out of something really bad that happened to me."


TOPICS: Culture/Society; US: North Dakota
KEYWORDS: michellemarxen

Michelle Marxen, 26, is a pediatric nurse from Fargo, N.D. (Facebook photo courtesy of Michelle Marxen)
1 posted on 10/15/2013 5:52:02 PM PDT by rhema
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To: rhema

Pretty, but those glasses look photoshopped.


2 posted on 10/15/2013 5:54:22 PM PDT by Antihero101607
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To: rhema

I posted a couple of weeks ago about a couple in ... Georgia? Alabama? ... whose daughter’s wedding was cancelled. They held the reception anyway and invited several hundred homeless men, women and children.


3 posted on 10/15/2013 5:56:31 PM PDT by workerbee (The President of the United States is DOMESTIC ENEMY #1)
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To: Antihero101607
is this better?


4 posted on 10/15/2013 5:58:01 PM PDT by C210N (When people fear government there is tyranny; when government fears people there is liberty)
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To: rhema

That’s a nice story, and I wish the girl well, but the headline made me expect to read she had found a new love or new way of life. My sympathies to her for that disappointment, but better the fiancé be honest now, than later, when there is shared property or a new baby.


5 posted on 10/15/2013 6:00:11 PM PDT by lee martell
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To: C210N

Still not guilty, IMHO.


6 posted on 10/15/2013 6:02:01 PM PDT by Antihero101607
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To: rhema

Best to have him break it off now if he is having doubts. It would be even more heartbreaking were he to do it after they are married, maybe even cheat on her.


7 posted on 10/15/2013 6:05:55 PM PDT by psjones (u)
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To: rhema

I’m Available! What a Babe?


8 posted on 10/15/2013 6:06:37 PM PDT by Fully Awake DAV (Navy Vet when homosexuality was not tolerated)
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To: rhema

That was a great idea they had, I hope everyone has a great time.

And as for some bum who would break an engagement over the phone, what can I say? Honey, you are better off without him!


9 posted on 10/15/2013 6:09:42 PM PDT by jocon307
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To: rhema

But as a father, I would also tell her “The next wedding, you get $300”.


10 posted on 10/15/2013 6:09:58 PM PDT by AppyPappy (Obama: What did I not know and when did I not know it?)
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To: rhema

Something else must be wrong with her. She wasn’t dumped for her looks.


11 posted on 10/15/2013 6:13:21 PM PDT by umgud (2A can't survive dem majorities)
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To: rhema

jilted over the phone? wow...


12 posted on 10/15/2013 6:16:12 PM PDT by latina4dubya (when i have money i buy books... if i have anything left, i buy 6-inch heels and a bottle of wine...)
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To: rhema

My ex cancelled 13 days before our 1st wedding date.

Stupid me married the louse 14 months later!!

Divorced 6 years almost to the day later and much better for it.

Seven years later, married the man I was meant to marry. 21 years of happiness this January!!

Hopefully this jilted bride will find her true mate sooner


13 posted on 10/15/2013 6:16:41 PM PDT by KosmicKitty (WARNING: Hormonally crazed woman ahead!!)
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To: rhema

Compare the way this lady handled her breakup to the way this hag handled being rejected after the SECOND DATE:

http://thedailybanter.com/2013/09/warning-all-men-in-dc-do-not-date-quin-woodward-pu/

I have all the respect in the world for Miss Marxen. The other “lady”? Not so much.


14 posted on 10/15/2013 6:18:08 PM PDT by FLAMING DEATH (I'm not racist - I hate Biden too!)
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To: Antihero101607
She's adorable. I don't think the specs are 'shopped...that's the style, now ;-)

Everything happens for a reason...one door closes, so another will open.

15 posted on 10/15/2013 6:23:53 PM PDT by Jane Long (While Marxists continue the fundamental transformation of the USA, progressive RINOs assist!)
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To: KosmicKitty

Sounds a bit like the Salinger novel, “Raise High the Roofbeam, Carpenters.”


16 posted on 10/15/2013 6:35:41 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: kabumpo

One of the few people besides myself who read that book :-)


17 posted on 10/15/2013 6:40:28 PM PDT by KosmicKitty (WARNING: Hormonally crazed woman ahead!!)
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To: kabumpo

Someone missed an angel. Things happen for a reason.. d:^)


18 posted on 10/15/2013 6:45:53 PM PDT by CopperTop
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To: KosmicKitty

I believe that multitudes have read that book - but not who are on FR.


19 posted on 10/15/2013 6:46:02 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: rhema

Betcha she is very happily married to a real man within 15 months.


20 posted on 10/15/2013 6:51:58 PM PDT by Wife of D28Man
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To: rhema
She seems a very nice person and attractive too. Not to be discounted is that she is has a profession and one that is in demand. What an asset to any man she will be.

I know this because my wife was a qualified school teacher from London, England. If it wasn't for her pension we would both be up the proverbial creek in Canada.

21 posted on 10/15/2013 7:21:43 PM PDT by Peter Libra
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To: rhema

Lovely smile, lovely person. Wish her well in the future. We need more generous people like her who can turn adversity into something positive for others.


22 posted on 10/15/2013 7:30:57 PM PDT by MadMax, the Grinning Reaper
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To: rhema

I think a girl who is that cute, is smart enough to become a pediatric nurse, and is kind enough to think of others when her heart was broken, will someday find someone more worthy of her. As others have said, better that the fiancé broke things off now. The day will come when she’s glad she didn’t end up with someone who’s not enraptured with her. Girls: never marry someone who isn’t desperate to marry you. Never try to drag a man to the altar.


23 posted on 10/15/2013 7:48:05 PM PDT by ottbmare (the OTTB mare, now a proud Marine Mom)
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To: umgud

lol, my guess would be there is something wrong with the guy who breaks an engagement over the phone. She’s a lucky girl.


24 posted on 10/15/2013 11:11:45 PM PDT by AllAmericanGirl44 ('Hey citizen, what's in YOUR closet?')
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