Quite frankly, I find the alcohol laws in this country totally bizarre.
I’m second generation immanent, Italian. My grandfathers, both, when we turned 12, started giving us watered down wine at dinner. A rational approach. Not much, but enough that by the end of the summer, it wasn’t a big deal.
This continued once we got home. Mom & dad, rightfully to me, felt is was MUCH better to learn how to drink responsibly at home BEFORE sending us out in to the wild.
Did I get drunk on occasion... Yes. Did I make it a habit, NO! I was usually the designated driver once my friends got to be 15 - 16 and they started binge drinking.
Get some sanity folks. Teach your kids how to drink, if your beliefs allow it, or quit whining when they come home smashed!
She’s now working to support herself.
Off hand, I’d say mission accomplished.
In my state, and several others, parents can serve alcohol to their minor children in the home.