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Bill de Blasio’s Wife Chirlane McCray, a Former Lesbian, Opens up About Falling in Love With a Man
New York Daily News ^ | THURSDAY, MAY 9, 2013 | Kristen A. Lee

Posted on 11/06/2013 5:16:14 PM PST by nickcarraway

McCray’s interview with Essence magazine comes 34 years after she penned a 1979 essay for the publication about coming out as a gay woman. She said she fell in love with a man 'by putting aside the assumptions I had about the form and package my love would come in.'

Bill de Blasio’s wife opened up about falling in love with a man after years of identifying as a lesbian and their life as a “very conventional, unconventional couple” in a candid interview released Thursday.

Chirlane McCray, 58, said her relationship with de Blasio was made possible “by putting aside the assumptions I had about the form and package my love would come in.”

The interview, with Essence magazine, comes 34 years after McCray penned a groundbreaking 1979 essay for Essence entitled, “I Am a Lesbian,” about coming out as a gay black woman.

A dozen years later, in 1991, McCray met de Blasio while she worked for the New York Commission on Human Rights and he was an aide to then-Mayor David Dinkins.

“I was wearing West African-inspired clothing and a nose ring, and Bill says he had the love-at-first-sight experience,” she said. “I did note what a good-looking guy he was and that he was funny and smart and made other people laugh.”

McCray said the fact that he was a man, and white, was not her biggest concern.

“All I could think about was, ‘He's six years younger than me!’” she said.

Asked if it was “strange being with a man,” given her history with women, McCray said:

“I came out at 17. I hadn’t really dated any men. I thought, ‘Whoa, what is this?’ But I also didn’t think, ‘Oh, now I’m attracted to men.’ I was attracted to Bill. He felt like the perfect person for me. For two people who look so different, we have a lot in common. We are a very conventional, unconventional couple.”

De Blasio was aware of her history, but her essay in Essence “shook him up,” she said.

“Other people told him in the beginning. Then at some point I gave him the article and said, “Look, this is who I am and you should read this.” It shook him up. But he didn’t show it. He was cool about it.”

The couple has now been married for 19 years and has two teenage children.

McCray’s past, while never a secret, was not discussed during de Blasio’s successful 2009 campaign for public advocate.

It only became widely known last December when news organizations wrote about her 1979 essay.

McCray and de Blasio then did a whirlwind of television interviews to talk about her past and their relationship. McCray and the couple’s children have been prominent, at times, in his campaign.

Her past serves as a counterpoint, of sorts, to the historic nature of City Council Speaker Christine Quinn’s rival Democratic candidacy.

Quinn, who is married to a woman, Kim Catullo, would be city’s the first openly gay mayor if elected.

In the Essence interview, McCray said she was unconcerned when her sexual past was publicized.

McCray, who said she doesn’t like labels, declined to call herself bisexual, but suggested that she can still be attracted to women. “I’m married, I’m monogamous, but I’m not dead and Bill isn’t either,” she told the magazine with a laugh.

“I know my husband loves me fiercely and passionately. I know he supports me and will always stand up for me.”


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; Politics/Elections; US: New York
KEYWORDS: billdeblasio; chirlanemccray; exlesbian; homosexualagenda; nyc
Flashback for the new mayor.








Didn't Christie make this illegal in New York? How many years in prison would she get there?

1 posted on 11/06/2013 5:16:14 PM PST by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Good grief, why do commies dwell so much on sex?

It seems to be the entire focus of their lives!


2 posted on 11/06/2013 5:20:38 PM PST by roses of sharon ("Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise." Luke 23:43)
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To: nickcarraway

Those are not the hugs of a husband and wife. Those are friendly, palling-around hugs. This marriage is as contrived as the Clinton’s!


3 posted on 11/06/2013 5:20:43 PM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: nickcarraway

One day a Taco will do. Next day, you crave a Burrito.

Happens all the time.


4 posted on 11/06/2013 5:23:26 PM PST by Kickass Conservative (Good news, Federal Funding for my Tagline has been restored. Crisis averted.)
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To: roses of sharon

Cuz they’re idiots.


5 posted on 11/06/2013 5:24:53 PM PST by Gene Eric (Don't be a statist!)
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To: nickcarraway

Why I thought this wasn’t scientifically possible, since they are “born that way.”


6 posted on 11/06/2013 5:27:21 PM PST by kaehurowing
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To: nickcarraway

Let the Freakshow begin

New York deserves it


7 posted on 11/06/2013 5:28:39 PM PST by Regulator
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To: roses of sharon

The depravity and hedonism is all part of bringing down the Western traditions of Jewish-Christian morals.


8 posted on 11/06/2013 5:32:38 PM PST by RushIsMyTeddyBear (Great vid by ShorelineMike! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOZjJk6nbD4&feature=plcp)
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To: Kickass Conservative

One day you’re dining on the delta,
the next your stuping a hot dog.

Hahaha, I did not say weiner!!!Huma does that.


9 posted on 11/06/2013 5:38:28 PM PST by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: rarestia

Wouldn’t it be a hoot if Chirlane stole Huma from Hilly?


10 posted on 11/06/2013 5:40:13 PM PST by nascarnation
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To: nickcarraway
Good God....this piece of excrement would make Bill Ayers blush.
11 posted on 11/06/2013 5:41:46 PM PST by Gay State Conservative (Osama Obama Care: A Religion That Will Have You On Your Knees!)
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To: nickcarraway

Geez, I’m white and my black GF is 16 years younger than me. She also loves country music, freedom, and guns. Suck it De Blasio.


12 posted on 11/06/2013 5:45:57 PM PST by gura (If Allah is so great, why does he need fat sexually confused fanboys to do his dirty work? -iowahawk)
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To: Gay State Conservative

I bet Anthony Weiner would go to bed with her.


13 posted on 11/06/2013 5:47:00 PM PST by laplata (Liberals don't get it .... their minds are diseased.)
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To: Regulator

This is going to end well....


14 posted on 11/06/2013 5:50:07 PM PST by rhc2000
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To: rhc2000; All

15 posted on 11/06/2013 5:54:02 PM PST by gura (If Allah is so great, why does he need fat sexually confused fanboys to do his dirty work? -iowahawk)
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To: nickcarraway
McCray, who said she doesn’t like labels, declined to call herself bisexual, but suggested that she can still be attracted to women. “I’m married, I’m monogamous, but I’m not dead and Bill isn’t either,” she told the magazine with a laugh.

Just rename Gracie Mansion to Melrose Place and get it over with.
16 posted on 11/06/2013 5:54:09 PM PST by LostInBayport (When there are more people riding in the cart than there are pulling it, the cart stops moving...)
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To: laplata

Always amazes me when people in their 50s feel the need to brag about thstupid things they did when they were young.


17 posted on 11/06/2013 5:55:16 PM PST by duckworth (Perhaps instant karma's going to get you. Perhaps not.)
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To: roses of sharon

The typical liberal life narrative is one long droning vagina monologue


18 posted on 11/06/2013 5:55:55 PM PST by lump in the melting pot (Half-brother is Watching You!)
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To: duckworth

Now that you mention it, I have always wondered about that myself. :)

I keep have either forgotten or keep the stupid things I’ve done to myself.


19 posted on 11/06/2013 6:01:58 PM PST by laplata (Liberals don't get it .... their minds are diseased.)
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To: nickcarraway

20 posted on 11/06/2013 6:03:05 PM PST by Lizavetta
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To: roses of sharon

Noticed that, eh?

So have quite a few people.


21 posted on 11/06/2013 6:14:01 PM PST by NVDave
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To: Kickass Conservative

So it IS a choice. Can’t make a taco lover crave burritos they said. Apparently you can.


22 posted on 11/06/2013 6:20:01 PM PST by Adder (No, Mr. Franklin, we could NOT keep it.)
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To: nickcarraway

Formerly gay?

You’re kidding?

There’s a cure.


23 posted on 11/06/2013 6:22:58 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: Vendome

Bill de Blasio is irresistible to women, I guess.


24 posted on 11/06/2013 6:23:45 PM PST by nickcarraway
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To: Kickass Conservative

That’s great.

Now I don’t want burritos ever again.


25 posted on 11/06/2013 6:25:41 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: nickcarraway

i thought it was genetic?


26 posted on 11/06/2013 6:25:54 PM PST by hecht (america 9/11, Israel 24/7)
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To: Lizavetta

And I see that she is a tree hugger.


27 posted on 11/06/2013 6:44:26 PM PST by chopperman
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To: Lizavetta

“A Tree Grows Out of Chirlane’s Pants”


28 posted on 11/06/2013 7:07:14 PM PST by Right Wing Assault (What happened to my tagline??)
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To: Vendome
Formerly gay? You’re kidding? There’s a cure.

She must be condemned! She's not allowed to switch! That's illegal!

29 posted on 11/06/2013 7:09:24 PM PST by Right Wing Assault (What happened to my tagline??)
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To: nickcarraway

Barf.


30 posted on 11/06/2013 7:20:39 PM PST by Eric in the Ozarks ("Say Not the Struggle Naught Availeth.")
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To: nickcarraway

Like Bill, I have a thing for women with nose rings.


31 posted on 11/06/2013 8:32:40 PM PST by The_Media_never_lie (Actually, they lie when it suits them! The crooked MS media must be defeated any way it can be done!)
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To: The_Media_never_lie

Maybe he’ll give you some tips.


32 posted on 11/06/2013 8:45:48 PM PST by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Have fun, NYC, they’re all yours.


33 posted on 11/06/2013 8:47:03 PM PST by dfwgator
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To: rarestia

I was told by someone who saw him at a private fund raiser that he gives off a huge gay vibe. That would make his marriage of political convenience to a lesbian understandable.


34 posted on 11/06/2013 9:15:27 PM PST by CaptainK (...please make it stop. Shake a can of pennies at it.)
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To: nickcarraway; F15Eagle; Larry Lucido

I guess he converted her.


35 posted on 11/07/2013 7:20:45 AM PST by Gamecock (Many Atheists take the stand: "There is no God AND I hate Him.")
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To: roses of sharon; Colofornian

**Good grief, why do commies dwell so much on sex?**

Much like a lot of false religions and other cults.
Communism is a false religion of sorts, IMHO.


36 posted on 11/07/2013 7:22:32 AM PST by Gamecock (Many Atheists take the stand: "There is no God AND I hate Him.")
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To: nickcarraway

I hope you realize I was being silly! No nose rings!


37 posted on 11/07/2013 2:59:34 PM PST by The_Media_never_lie (Actually, they lie when it suits them! The crooked MS media must be defeated any way it can be done!)
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