“My first wife wanted to be a man (in the figurative not literal sense).”
I walk a very fine line being the breadwinner. It makes economic sense for me to work one job and him stay home with the kids. He could work two, and we’d never see him, and still end up with less. I am always mindful of this, in every aspect of life. He has complete and total control over the money. I ask him for cash when I need it. I hope he doesn’t feel this way about me.
The fact that you wrote that indicates to me you are not the kind of person who should be concerned. My ex craved control.
I let my wife give me cash, until my young son asked me if I worked for Mom. I didn’t think that sort of confusion was healthy, so I put a stop to it by simply taking the time to get to the Credit Union myself. And simply explaining why to my wife when the subject came up.Some things we do for the sake of conventional appearances. I’m sure your husband is the one who pays in a restaurant even tho the money came from your paycheck . . .
In any event, society does not need colleges to be admitting more women than men. You don’t want your son to go into that situation by default, because not every woman would be wiling and able to finesse the situation as well as you do. And all prior history proves that it is not a necessary condition of society . . .