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Not picking on you MomofThree....Mom jeans,the pudcap hairdo(When women throw in the towel and chop all their hair off in a wash and wear psudeo 80's bob), and a sports team jersey not on game day are the marks of a decaying and(or) dead marriage where all the passion is essentially gone. It's the male equivalent of a the bloated beer belly, tattered and stained t-shirt look.

Even the bible says women should keep attractive for the husbands. That Mom look covers up either a rock bottom self esteem or a selfishness(F him, he does not appreciate me so I will look like I want to). If you don't put time into your appearance(get a decent haircut, wear some cosmetics,take care of your skin, wear clothes that flatter, and maintain a level of fitness and sex appeal) well your man will find a woman who will. Its simple biology. I won't date a woman who wears Mom jeans, it masks an underlying problem(s).

I have heard all the excuses..Billy has soceer and I work 50 hours..blah, blah...ask your husband if he would help out with the kids and the chores so you could get to the gym and make up a grocery lists not chock full of processed crap adding to your ever burgeoning derriere? I bet most husbands if they knew the payoff was a hot, sexy, attractive, well maintained wife would walk across broken glass for that. Or Moms everywhere can do it like they have been, be at a 25BMI, over stressed, grumpy and complaining and wind up in divorce court. Yes he loves you for you mind, your devotion, those are great clichés and you may even believe them but show me a Mom jean wearing pudcapper and I'll show you a quick divorce after the youngest one turns 18.

The Bible is speaking of INNER beauty you ding-a-ling! In case you missed it, Proverbs speaks of beauty being a passing thing and in another passage for men to avoid being trapped by the beauty of a women.

I hope you are not married since you look first to the outside rather than the inside....and I’m guessing you think it’s OK for the man to wander although he may be letting himself go a big in older age? Wow...just WOW!

Ha you’re really in trouble for that MISTER!

I work in a left of center Organization. One day at lunch that very subject came up. Two Guys sitting at a table with a hald dozen or more women. I was asked what I thought. Well, me being outspoken and in my early 30s spoke my mind.
Very similar to what you posted. Man o Man. Out came the long knives....

Anyhow 15-20 years later most of the closeted feminist at that table are divorced, suffering from the Middle age spread syndrome, pudcap hairdos...

Their big thing is now they can’t get their kids to move out and they can’t find any decent guys to date. LOL

“... not picking on you Mom of three”.

Of course you are, Mr. I got “momtothree” all figured out. Where should I start? First, thank you for your pseudo marriage counseling advice. How long have you been married? Me? Oh, 23 splendid years. Secondly, I do look good. In fact, I look great. I take care of my appearance. However, do you really suggest that I wear pearls to do my daily activities? Sure... I may look all hot and sexy wearing a mini skirt and high heels while I scrub the floors, cook a roast for dinner or drop the kids off to practice but why? Why would that be necessary?

For what it is worth, pburgh01... my husband and children adore me. I adore them. My life is taking care of them. “.. your man will find a woman who will”. My husband and I committed ourselves in marriage in front of God, our family and friends. He in no way, shape, or form is the type of man who would ever “trade” in his wife and the mother of his children for some sexy, thong wearing babe. Unlike YOU, Mr. I got the whole marriage idea figured out because I “won’t date a woman who wears Mom jeans”... grow the hell up. AFTER, and only after, YOU find a woman to marry for as long as my husband and I are married.. can you offer ANY advice to me. For what it is worth, the oldest is about to turn 18... my husband and I have never been happier. Why? He loves me and I love him. Have a good day and oh yeah....good luck on that whole marriage counseling thing you got going on.

I got a kick out of reading your reply about mom jeans and knew the shit was going to hit the fan. FWIW, I kinda agree with you, I’ve seen it happen. I’ve been married 31 years, have 5 kids, work out daily (I weigh 105), wear my hair long and haven’t succumbed to that awful hairdo you are referring to. I don’t wear mom jeans, either. I wear tight, skinny jeans and boots. My kids are proud of me, their friends call me their dad’s “trophy wife.” Being 52 years old, I’m far from being a trophy but any woman can take care of herself, not only for hubby but for her kids to be proud to point her out and say “that’s my mom!”