The school has a dress code. It is irrelevant as to what you or I think the Bible says about it. The school has a right to enforce a religious dress code and anyone that doesn't wish to abide by that code can send their children elsewhere.
This is just another attack on religious liberty. I feel sorry for this girl that she has grandparents that refuse to give her guidance in her sexual identity. If they are encouraging some mixed up gender identity, then they will have to answer to God.
If they have a dress code and it’s not being followed, then that should be referenced in the letter. Absolutely no need to bring up the matter of gender confusion in an eight year old. It’s unnecessary and isn’t germane to the dress code. Nor is it any of their business unless they are licensed professionals qualified to diagnose children.
The dress code makes no reference to hair length for girls and the girl is not sporting an extreme hair cut or color, so should not be referenced in the letter because it’s not an actionable issue under their code.
Sound like there might be somebody who feels like the girl may be dressing to the letter of law, but not in the spirit of the law in being tom boyish, chubby and possibly slovenly (playing in the mud) all of which is NORMAL for 8 year olds of either gender.
Can’t help but wonder if we have adults stupidly sexualizing the non sexual in children. Or some well meaning git wanted to make a project of the child, prettify her, teach her to be interested in feminine ways and the eight year old resisted because she’s, you know, only eight and doesn’t care about that stuff right now.
Wouldn’t be the first “Aunt Polly” types who complicated things with their well meant but unwanted concerns about unimportant trivia in a church setting.