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Losing Your Best Friend
http://townhall.com/columnists/brucebialosky/2014/03/30/losing-your-best-friend-n1816082?utm_source= ^ | March 30, 2014 | Bruce Bialosky

Posted on 03/30/2014 8:05:52 AM PDT by Kaslin

We all know that it will not last forever. But when the end comes you’re never really ready to accept it. I had been through this before, but this one was the toughest. She was the one that had my heart more than any other. She was the one I will miss the most.

She came into our lives as just a baby. We had a girl already and a boy. But our girl was at the end of her days. We did not want the boy to be left alone so we thought we would get him a mate to be with when we were not around. Betsy took one look at this new runt and said “I am not going anywhere quite yet.” She hung on for two years after that and left us while she was sleeping in her bed. We became accustomed to having three so wanted a new member of the family. She looked a lot different than the other two, but was quite special in her own way.

What made Cookie so unique? Those fourteen pounds of white with those piercing black eyes was exceedingly smart-- much more so than the others. We had many sharing our house over the years, but this one was so much smarter. Even though she was seemingly slight she was as tough as they come. If you were a lizard or groundhog or opossum who dared enter her back yard, you did not have a chance against this prowler of her domain.

Everyone has a favorite memory of their best friend. Mine was when we went to pick up the kids from sleepover camp and Cookie came with us. She decided to tour the camp on her own. She was so lightning fast it literally took twenty people chasing her down to finally catch her before she met a SUVs tire. It was a sight one never forgets.

She had tacitly been my son’s to compensate for the fact that her older brother was my daughter’s. That all ended when #1 son went away to college. Cookie became mine. Whenever I was home from the moment I woke up she was with me. If I went for a walk she would be the only one with the endurance to keep up and often she was pulling me along. If I was on the treadmill she would be my companion; there the entire time. She would lie next to me on the couch every evening. She slept with us and was often hogging my space as I was always the last one in bed.

But her body betrayed her. Her mind was still as sharp as ever, but her kidneys and pancreas gave out. We tried our best to keep her with us, but it became time and the grueling decision was made to let her go. When the kids and I took her to do the deed, it was a challenge that cannot be conveyed in words. One feels so helpless standing there next to her. You have protected her and taken care of her since she was a baby, but now you cannot any longer. Then the doctor comes in to do what I cannot imagine I could ever do; even though you may intellectualize that you are doing the best thing, your heart cannot tell you that. Then my beloved Cookie was gone.

There is a difference among people. When my wife told a relation that we were soon losing Cookie, he said that is why he could not have someone like that in his life. The loss was too painful. I thought what a horrible way to live life. Lord Tennyson said it best: “ ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

God works in mysterious ways. As Cookie was experiencing her final days, Darling Daughter was told at work of a new friend who needed a home. As the kids were coming home with the ten-year-old we had saved from untold mayhem, I asked them if Rocky knew he had just won the lottery. His second day in the house he crawled up on the couch, brought his front legs on my leg and laid his face in my lap. I questioned why anyone would ever let anyone like this leave their home. He has fit very well with his older brother and younger sister.

I told Rocky that as cool as he appears to be that he has large shoes to fill. At least he has taken over being the one with me on the treadmill. But there will never be someone to fill the hole in my heart for the loss of my best friend. God be with you


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1 posted on 03/30/2014 8:05:52 AM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Joe 6-pack

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2 posted on 03/30/2014 8:08:28 AM PDT by Perdogg (Ted Cruz-Rand Paul 2016)
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To: Kaslin

So tough to lose a beloved friend


3 posted on 03/30/2014 8:14:27 AM PDT by nuconvert ( Khomeini promised change too // Hail, Chairman O)
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To: Kaslin
I'm sorry for your loss my friend.

I too have said goodbye.

I currently have an 8-1/2 year old Irish Setter. Though she's still healthy and young, I realize my time with her is getting shorter.

May God grant you peace.

4 posted on 03/30/2014 8:14:31 AM PDT by mountn man (The Pleasure You Get From Life Is Equal To The Attitude You Put Into It)
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Always hard for a dog lover to lose one. It is just amazing to me how they can occupy such a large part of my heart.

The most recent was the hardest. I had worked at home for his 14 years and man, he was never away from my side. Those times he wasn't sitting next to my chair ready to go do something he slept with him head on my foot so he wouldn't miss me getting up.

Thought he'd be the last, was concerned that the next time a dog would out live me and even if not I didn't know if I could go through that again. But selfishly there were just too many ghosts. Was constantly looking around for him and seeing a shadow or, for a brief moment, wonder where he was. It was weird.

I lasted a whole 3 months.

Been two full years now and the new dog is a joy but I still get dust or smoke in my eyes when I thing about those that have past.

Dogs are truly a gift from God.

5 posted on 03/30/2014 8:15:23 AM PDT by Proud_texan (Strange how paranoia can link up with reality now and then. - PK Dick)
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I hate to even think about it but we've got another 10 years or more. I've also thought about not wanting to leave a dog behind.

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6 posted on 03/30/2014 8:19:27 AM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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7 posted on 03/30/2014 8:21:54 AM PDT by Joe 6-pack (Qui me amat, amat et canem meum.)
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To: Kaslin

Years after they leave the pain is there, but the memories are wonderful.


8 posted on 03/30/2014 8:27:06 AM PDT by lysie
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To: Kaslin

I feel your pain, the few years we have lost too many friends, but the joy they brought us is always there! Live with the joy.


9 posted on 03/30/2014 8:28:38 AM PDT by Mastador1 (I'll take a bad dog over a good politician any day!)
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To: cripplecreek
They are something special.

What's he focused on? A squirrel?

10 posted on 03/30/2014 8:30:55 AM PDT by Proud_texan (Strange how paranoia can link up with reality now and then. - PK Dick)
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To: Kaslin

Yesterday I took Hairy (remember him Dog of the Year?) to the Blessing of the Animals. Hairy is in excellent health at 10 years old but in line for the blessing right behind us was a woman holding her ancient poodle. The woman was sobbing constantly and I didn’t have to ask what the problem was.

I have been there so many times but the answer is to get another pup and fall in love again.


11 posted on 03/30/2014 8:35:50 AM PDT by Ditter
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To: Kaslin

ROCCO


12 posted on 03/30/2014 8:36:17 AM PDT by JoeProBono (SOME IMAGES MAY BE DISTURBING VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED;-{)
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To: Kaslin
She'll be waiting for you. I believe that.

We lost our dog just over a year ago. When the time came, I'm the one who had to make the decision, but it was the right one. I won't lie - it still hurts. But it gets better, and the memories make you smile, always.

13 posted on 03/30/2014 8:36:59 AM PDT by andy58-in-nh (Cogito, ergo armatum sum.)
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To: Proud_texan

I think he was just checking.


14 posted on 03/30/2014 8:40:52 AM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: cripplecreek

Hehe, “just makin’ sure”.


15 posted on 03/30/2014 8:42:52 AM PDT by Proud_texan (Strange how paranoia can link up with reality now and then. - PK Dick)
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To: Kaslin

Damn cloudy screen....

“The Rainbow Bridge”.......
Where it will surely get crowded when ‘OUR’ time comes and our past companions will be ‘happy’ to see us again.......


16 posted on 03/30/2014 8:45:57 AM PDT by xrmusn ((6/98 --"I would agree with you BUT that would make both of us wrong".))
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To: Kaslin
Truly mans best friend
17 posted on 03/30/2014 8:57:45 AM PDT by ronnie raygun (Im missing a jumbo jet with 235 passengers has anyone seen it?)
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To: Kaslin

Sorry for your loss.

We are still grieving over losing Buddy last Friday evening. He was the best friend you could evver imagine. Our other dog Coco is still looking for him and the house is so quiet its like a tomb without him.


18 posted on 03/30/2014 9:03:24 AM PDT by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose o f a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: Kaslin

I had a once in a lifetime Sheltie several years ago. She was very smart, protective, willing and observant and we adored each other. She loved to play “soccer” with a beach ball with anyone who was willing to do so. She survived an auto immune crisis when she was 3 and lived to 11. My heavenly days, I miss her still.

I’ve had the privilege of living with 2 goofy/loving golden retrievers for the past few years. That playful grin and the love they pour out on everyone is wonderful, even when they occasionally help themselves to a couch cushion or counter surf sometimes.

Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all - as someone said on this thread.


19 posted on 03/30/2014 9:05:30 AM PDT by Wicket (1 Peter 3:15 , Romans 5:5-8)
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To: Kaslin
I lost the best dog you ever have in the late 90’s.
My Dad told me at the time you get one dog like that in your lifetime.
I will always remember that.

They're both gone now

20 posted on 03/30/2014 9:06:40 AM PDT by hans56 ( Audit the FED)
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