The other thing that all these busy bodies and know it alls seem to miss is that Kasem had written paperwork telling what his wishes were and the wife was ignoring those wishes. The daughter had power of attorney for health care...hence the judge’s ruling.
Moral of all such stories: Be sure you have SPECIFIC and precise details of what you want and what you don’t want done for (or to) you. Be sure you have selected a person who will carry out your wishes and directions.
My siblings did not like the choices I made for our mother’s final days. Too bad. Mom and I had long talks about all of it long before she was anywhere near passing from this veil of tears. She designated me to make decisions precisely because she KNEW that I would follow her wishes.
These are talks and discussions that ALL families should have sooner rather than later
***Be sure you have SPECIFIC and precise details of what you want and what you don’t want done for (or to) you. Be sure you have selected a person who will carry out your wishes and directions.***
If you think you can cover every, and I mean every, scenario with a written document, go for it. However, I would bet that no one can predict with accuracy what will befall them as age progresses.
There are only a few scenarios that are brought up with advance directives. They issue a one size fits all situations, but each person will encounter variances that the directives will not have clarified. So I think people will be very disappointed to discover that they have one thing in mind when they sign, but something else in mind when reality happens.