I tip my hat to you.
Yes, three times does not compare. I understand that.
But there are many more around here that speak out forcefully about something they know nothing about. My meager experience is a lifetime beyond theirs. Yours dwarfs mine. I am humbled by that. Really.
But the more I go though this, now with my own parents and in laws, I can agree with you that the time to make these decisions is not at the bedside. If you want to see people behave like lunatics, death beds and funeral homes are the place to get front row seats.
I am sure you could write a book. Thank you for telling your story.
I’m not an expert so I wasn’t trying to beat on you too hard. As we get old we’ll see more of our friends and family go, then ultimately ourselves. It is good that you have begun grappling with these questions...I predict you’ll be a comfort for many!