Just because you can’t pick your parents doesn’t mean you’re forced into accepting some eternal lock to them. Especially considering how genuinely evil some parents are.
Say child abusers/pedos for example.
Just a hypothetical here, but try this one on.
Suppose that “Poor Bowe” deserted because he believed his old man’s propaganda. He went off as an idyllic “True Believer” and found in the Taliban the primitive savagery that we all know resides in the Moslem Heart of Darkness.
Now he’s between a rock and a hard place. He knows the vision of the Holy Warrior of Islam is empty, but he’s also quite aware that he has deserted and by rights should face a firing squad (for which I would readily volunteer.)
Think of the inner resentment and hatred he holds for the father who led him so far astray.