Most guys are very happy to date a pure woman... but they still expect that woman to give it up for *them*.
Sure. A man would be accepting of a virgin. It makes it even more special when she has sex with him.
I’m sorry, but the facts bear weight here. Guys do not tolerate a chaste relationship because the have no reason to. Why spend a year in sexual frustration and have to make a life-time commitment to a woman when the next girl will put out without all the baggage?
This is reality. This is the truth. Right or wrong, men aren’t tolerating chastity because too many women are putting out.
We were the gate-keepers and we stopped doing our jobs. Now we’re routinely used and abused and we have no one to blame, but feminism...
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Unfortunately, it became a norm in the 60s and 70s.
People used to remain virgins until their wedding night. Of course, people used to get married shortly after hitting puberty so they weren't tolerating chastity very long.
It's becoming increasingly difficult to demand chastity until marriage from both genders when people are putting off getting married until their late 20s-30s. It just isn't natural.
There are plenty of women, as you note tangentially, who do not care a whit about a chaste relationship. As for the women who will “give it up” without so-called baggage do have baggage. Lots of emotional baggage built up from being used as a sex toy over and over again. Then, there is the very real possibility that she has baggage of the VD variety.
“I’m sorry, but the facts bear weight here. Guys do not tolerate a chaste relationship because the have no reason to. Why spend a year in sexual frustration and have to make a life-time commitment to a woman when the next girl will put out without all the baggage?”
Not sure your point.
It is true of non-Christian America.
But should not be true of a Christian man.
It stops a week after the honeymoon, except for when it's time to procreate.
A joke my BIL told me:
You know why the bride smiles so much on her wedding day?
She's given her last BJ.
Sad to say, your assessment of the modern dating world is spot on. It seems that, to the vast majority of single people today, “dating” literally means “sleeping around.”
However, that type of thinking doesn’t just affect young women. Young men who want to wait for marriage also are pressured... not just by other men but also by women. God forbid a man turns a woman down. I’ve heard other women accuse men of being gay if they turn them down.
And the disrespect men and women have for each other isn’t limited to young people. It seems to extend to men and women of all ages dating today.
Anyway, I just wanted to back up what you were saying and agree with your post, as much as I wish it weren’t so true.