[ClearCase_guy]

I work with a woman who has a terrible life -- multiple problems. She says she lives under a cloud and always has. She calls herself the unluckiest person in the world -- everything always goes wrong for her.

I see her make stupid decisions on a daily basis. She's just an idiot, plain and simple.

But she considers herself far above average in intelligence. Most of her stupid decisions come from her "trusting her instincts". She refuses to listen to anyone else who gives her advice.

[Vigilanteman]

Let me guess: She’s an Obama voter. Now what do I win?

[jdege]

Unfortunately, among the incompetencies the incompetent as burdened with, the most damaging is their incompetency in judging their own competence.

[roadcat]

She refuses to listen to anyone else who gives her advice.

Yeah, I know lots of women like that. I tend not to want to be around people like that. For example, this gal Liz I know, she's been unlucky the last few decades in marriage, her job, her finances, her sons, and on and on. Every time me or my wife give her advice she gets upset and won't take it. For instance, her sons in their thirties still living with her. I suggested she push them out the door and they get jobs and pay her bills. She went livid, accusing me of being uncaring about her sons. They are in their thirties! Advised her to get a lawyer about her legal ownership problems with her home between her and a brother, and how to have him do a quit-claim. Refused to take the advice, and complains she doesn't know what to do. Other than complain!

Idiots who dig their own holes they can't get out of!

[Marie]

Yup. And I’ve seen many women who choose to stay in abuse (fr themselves and their children) rather than get a job.

With the abuser, they’ve only got to endure an hour or two a night, maybe weekends; but the rest of the time, they have autonomy.

For them, the payoff is better with the abuser than on their own. They’d rather have a bit of tyranny than have to endure 40+ hours a week laboring for a boss.

And the victim-thing pays off. They get tons of reinforcement that the guy is a jerk and tons of sympathy and their egos soothed. It’s never their fault.

They get to absorb the pity while avoiding any real responsibility.

Because of this mindset, I do admire women who find the strength to leave. Even more, women with children. Being a single mother is very difficult.