After 5 years old and countless moves between foster homes.
My boy is now 17 and he mostly just does goofy teenager stuff but early on age 6-14 you never knew what to get. His biological half sister started exhibiting signs around 8 and has been a nightmare since 9 and today she is 12 (adopted when she was 18 months). Without going into details lets just say it is a good thing that I earn a decent living and can afford to take off time for her issues. And the school and bus camera videos are classic You Tube material but then you realize she’s your kid.
I have a sister that was adopted at seven in the end she never bonding with the family and later as an adult decided to break off contact with the family. it really hurt my mom and dad when she did that not to mention the rest of us who still consider her our sister. I have another brother that was adopted at age nine. he was so traumatized by the time my parents got him they could only watch as his behavior got worse each day not knowing what to do. he is now in prison on a ten to life sentence for murder. the kid was so damaged bye the time of the adoption he was a sociopath
my other two siblings bonded with the family and everything is all right with but they were much younger one was adopted as a infant and the other at age three....
I hope that the child that was abandoned by his grandmother ends up in the adoption system and is adopted because if he stays with his family he has no future.