Try leaving. You’ll have to convince the Franchise Tax Board that you have actually left the state. It’s not what they want to hear.
“Try leaving. “
People spend a lifetime building connections. They create a comfortable social space and that space is most of their lives. The job and the taxes are only one aspect of that space. Now consider that the entire family is psychologically rooted. Moving is one of the three most traumatic things that can happen; death and loss of a job being the other two. Moving can cause divorces and is especially traumatic for children. So, it’s harder than you might imagine.