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Yes, two sides to every story and we only heard one. Reading the article, it talked about how this woman would be able to garnish this man's Social Security payments decades from now - it was referred to as a "long term savings account" in the article. The guy may indeed be a deadbeat dad dirtbag but throughout the article, it only speaks about how this woman continuously tried tracking this man down to have him arrested and forced to pay her child support. I was thinking, if she directed that energy into finding herself a job, she might be doing very well indeed. Why is it that the man is always the cow milked for cash? We never hear about a woman being chased down for child support.

That said, the best revenge is living well. One of my co-workers went through such a situation. Her husband left her for another woman. But she ended up in the workplace and now she works at the VP level of my company. She makes well into six figures and when it's her weekend to drop the kids off with the father, she feels good driving her BMW over to his crappy apartment and actually giving him some cash so that he can afford to do something decent with his kids. Needless to say, this loser's girlfriend ended up dumping him.

Her husband left her for another woman. But she ended up in the workplace and now she works at the VP level of my company. She makes well into six figures and when it's her weekend to drop the kids off with the father, she feels good driving her BMW over to his crappy apartment and actually giving him some cash so that he can afford to do something decent with his kids.

Not going to defend the ex-husband, because maybe he is a POS, I don't know. But I am going to point out a couple of things:

1) material goods are NOT the key to, nor proof of, happiness. In fact, many if not most men can be happy with just some "crappy apartment" and minimal stuff.

2) Women often lie, especially about exes. When they were dating and early on in the marriage, I bet he was the most awesome guy in the world. Once he's out, he's now a POS that used to beat her or he was a coward or impotent or whatever nasty stuff she can invent. Does she really have to give him cash? Who knows. Maybe she does because he gives his entire paycheck to her for child support and alimony. Who knows.

3) She's now the VP of a company. Great. Is she VP because she is more competent than the other candidates? Or is she VP because she has a vagina? Who knows.

The one thing we can be sure of is that the old rules no longer apply. These days up is down and black is white. Good people get destroyed, often just for being good. Bad people get elevated, often for having dark skin or a vagina. The hard truth is, that in the USA in 2016, if you are a morally upstanding, Christian who believes in the Constitution, you ARE going to run afoul of the system at some point (and this applies doubly if you are white). If you are not running afoul of the system, it is probably because you are just keeping your head down and going with the flow to avoid trouble, in sheep-like fashion.

Why is it that the man is always the cow milked for cash? We never hear about a woman being chased down for child support.

It's called the Golden Uterus. Once she has your children...everything you own becomes hers. Everything you will ever earn for the next decade (at least) will be hers.

Bill Bradley made sure that no matter how high the child support payments get, you will pay. Even if your life circumstances take a negative turn, the payments remain the same. If you can't afford them any longer, you go to jail.

All she has to do is say you threatened her and have a restraining order taken out...even in absentia. The inevitable charges of child abuse come like clockwork.

The best approach in many cases is to do what this guy did. Go off the grid and underground for a while.