It’s not about the “validity” of your child — whatever that may mean. It’s about the (lack of) validity of your actions, which are contrary to your daughter’s human dignity, not to mention your own and that of your husband. No one is entitled to a child. No human person should be treated like a commodity that can be ordered up on demand. The Holy Spirit is the Lord and Giver of life. We have no right to force his hand.
Careful. Your steps are heavy and clumsy in an area that requires a lighter tread.