Me too, T-Bone! Another family did IVF, and they ended up with more healthy looking embryos than they could use. I am the beneficiary of the most wonderful way to “adopt,” ever. I got to carry (pregnancy) and nurture my baby who has no genetic relation to me and that doesn’t matter one whit. She is perfect and I wouldn’t want her any other way. It doesn’t cost much and there are thousands of embryos out there with the potential for making couples or families complete.
Congratulations! I presume that in the best interests of your child, you have maintained contact with the biological parents. As an adoptee and adoptive parent, I can personally attest to the need to do so. Children have a right to know their parents, even if you (or I) are raising them. As you know, medical professionals will ask "is there a history of .... (fill in the name of the disease) ... in your family?" If the parents refuse to release that information, you have a right, on behalf of the child, to pursue it legally. Your child also has a right to know his/her ancestral heritage. It may seem trite when they are young but as they age, it will surface and you should be in a position to provide the answer.
Congratulations. We’ve been blessed!