When you get right down to it, the situation is tragic and the women really suffer. Some 18 or 19 year old kid, whether an Arab or /Jew gets swept up in he emotionalism of the times, and gets himself killed. He will be hailed as a hero or martyr, but in the cold light of day, it is family, especially the mothers who grievously suffer his loss and are never ever the same or happy again.
the horrible thing about a conflict like Israel and Palestinian conflict is that there are so many outside forces that care nothing about the people involved that want there to be no peace.