If she truly felt this way, she could always lead by example.
Years ago I was recommended to a judge to straighten out some electrical work in a vacay bungalow he purchased, the judge recommended my services to another judge and a few more over the years. Nice folks, wonderful spouses, but very different from most of us common folk. It’s sort of like a club. The trappings of which they surround themselves reek of exclusivness. I still get holiday greetings, fruit baskets, and invites to lawn parties. At times I have been asked to manage small projects requiring sub-contractors, it’s rather sensitive business because they have to rely on select contacts to provide trusted help and services in many everyday facets of life.