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The logic governing the game, unseen by both the boys and the girls, was predicated upon sexist assumptions that relegated the girls to positions of prey. This is what American male culture taught us early on: Women were like “meat” and we must always nurture a voracious appetite. This fact alone should challenge how we construe “mutual consent.” The game was orchestrated around what the philosopher Luce Irigaray would call a “dominant phallic economy.” We chased; they ran. We were the pursuers; they were the pursued. Our objective was to “get them.” We gazed upon the prey and then we would strike. Though the girls played, they were not to blame. We were the “winners,” possessors of conquered territory. That is part of the early training that I received when it came to my toxic masculinity.

The "game" is played that way because that is what women want. Just look at the "plot" of romance novels and crap like "50 Shades of Grey". Those are women who consume those products.

My own mother, a NOW member briefly in the '70's until she what they really were, provided me some "dating advice" around 1979.

Don't ask. Make your move without using any words. If the girl is not into you, she will let you know and you can stop wasting time and money on her. Once the girl says 'not that' or 'no' when you are pushing things forward, take no for an answer and don't try to cross that boundary at that time. Maybe another night or later that night, the 'no' will fade away. If you ask, you are simply going to hear 'NO' every time and you will be known as a "really nice guy". And you want to avoid that unless you're into being alone on weekend nights.

Yeah, this cuck and his blue balls can watch porno and toss off in his New York City broom closet and hope some ugly witch hits on him so he can be assured that he has her consent. At least these crank-yankers aren't gonna breeding anytime soon and they'll just abort any life they do create.