If I get stinkin, passed out drunk and end up driving into the ghetto where I am killed do I have some responsibility for my actions?
No I am not downplaying rape.
You’re more likely to get raped if you pass out drunk and you’re not stinkin.
If you get drunk and then decide it’s a good idea to drive a car, you are held fully responsible for that stupid drunken decision.
A drunk woman is absolved from any responsibility for drunkenly agreeing to sex, while the equally drunk man is held fully responsible.