[Lou L]

“I remember when salons started opening back up and several of my friends were so relieved they could get their hair and roots colored again. That didn’t sway me one bit. And my hair is actually thicker and healthier. Plus it’s great to smash another relic of the patriarchy!”

For context, the above blurb is about women getting their hair treated/cut whatever, in a salon. The woman reveals that she stopped going, then never went back.

What the h@ll does that have to do with patriarchy?

[Persevero]

In re the patriarchy

Lots of wimmens believe they have to stay fit, dress attractively, dye and style their hair, wear makeup, even have extreme makeover type plastic surgery sometimes, for men to respect/notice/like them.

We aren’t totally wrong. I get more attention and respect when I am put together.

But from women and men! It’s about putting your best foot forward, confidence, caring about how you present yourself. Like anything it can be taken too far.

If you go out gray and chunky with a tired face and drab/ill fitting clothing, most men will not acknowledge you, hold the door, serve you as well if a cashier or clerk or waiter, etc. You just get sort of devalued.

[frogjerk]

I think if I can crawl into this insane person’s mind for a moment - it is a tortured attempt to blame the patriarchy for spending time making yourself look presentable and attractive to men?