Posted on 12/22/2023 1:30:56 PM PST by RomanSoldier19
A sleep divorce might save you from a marital one.
Cameron Diaz says it should be “normalized” for married couples to have separate bedrooms — and sleep experts and many couples agree.
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The basic point may be valid, but let’s keep in mind that her ideal scenario is that SHE has a house, her HUSBAND has a house, and THEY have a house. That’s a 3 house family. Probably all in Beverly Hills.
I do not look to Cameron Diaz for good ideas that average people can make a part of their lives.
Solid marriages are built on compromises where two people join together in a single situation, and find a way to make that work in a collaborative environment. Buying 3 houses to “make it work” tells me that everyone is too selfish to ever make it really work.
I have sleep apnea and have used a cpap for 20 years. Got married 4 years ago and she loves the droning sound of my cpap. She says the kind of noise it makes helps her sleep.
How rotten of a sleeper must you be to so bother your spouse that they need to get away from you?
Ummm ....
Let me think about this ....
Ummm ....
No.
No husband now, but my cat likes to sleep with me and she bites me if I roll over. Daisy needs her own room for sure.
Our two neighbors are married and live next door to each other and have for years. He is eccentric and she is a nice and tidy retired school teacher. They appear to be very happy.
My parents were not wealthy but they slept in different rooms in their later years because that was before Cpap machines.
Ron and Nancy Reagan slept in separate rooms.
I’m not gonna judge. There are probably a number of ways people can work out getting a good night’s rest.
a whole lot of folks were upset about this on another thread.
why anyone cares who sleeps where in someone elses marriage is mind boggling even for this crowd.
There’s a Seinfeld episode in which Jerry Laments that sleep and sexual activity got all wrapped up together when they really don’t have much to do with each other at all. And that’s basically right. Let’s face it... historically homes weren’t very big and bed-sharing was as much if not more about the practical need to get by with limited space/recources as it was to facilitate sexual activity. So, now in an era of great wealth, if you can afford to have a lot of space, why not let everyone sleep in their own bed and/or room?
My wife and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for 10 years plus. Hell for a while we slept in separate houses on the same street. I stopped by after work for Dinner and my laundry and she came over later for adult activities, but since we are remodeling the other house right now, she moved in to the new house I built. Still in different rooms though.
Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell have 2 separate wings in their house so they can have ALONE time.
They still are a marvelous couple, IMO.
My wife and I have separate bedrooms. Hers has the dressers, mine has the video games, computer, and my firm Twin bed. She has a King size with memory foam on top of memory foam mattress. The only “person” who doesn’t sleep well is the dog. He goes from room to room. Like a cat, he naps here, then there. Or in the Hallway in between.
First Wife and I slept in separate bedrooms simply because she snored like a freight train
M'Husband wears a CPAP at night. Nothing will bring me awake faster then it going silent.
Everybody has his preference. I didn’t even like the distance a king bed afforded.
I’ve been watching The Crown and they have a suite - separate bedrooms connected by a room in the middle.
Indeed. Why does this weird Hollywood 304 insist on lecturing everybody about where to sleep? She wants to "normalize" her preference. She can piss off, sez I ...
The separate houses thing I don’t get. Even if a couple had money to throw around on separate houses, they aren’t much of a couple if they can’t come together on a house and how to decorate and furnish the commons rooms to mutual taste. Part of coupling is to make those sort of compromises.
I get the separate bedrooms for a couple without kids or beyond kids, or even, I suppose with a baby and stay-at-home wife— she should be the one to do the get up in the middle of the night thing 95% of the time.
Most people can’t afford a home with enough bedrooms for all living in the house.
Separate bedrooms allows a couple some sense of individuality where each person gets his or her way with colors, styles, mattresses, falling asleep to tv or not, throwing their clothes on a chair or not, etc. It’s a must for people who go to bed and get up at different times and are still working and need to be sharp and well rested for work.
But it would be important to have frequent “sleepovers” on the weekends to maintain intimacy.
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