It shouldn’t be controversial, but to some, it always is.
As you say, the truth of it is, there are differences.
Anyone who pays attention sees that men and women view things and operate in an environment in very different ways. We are wired differently. If aliens came to Earth, they would likely view men and women as different species.
I have long held the belief that those differences are exactly the reason that a man and woman together can, in many ways, be stronger in unison than either of them could be as an individual...when acting as a pair (not just co-mingling males and females together in the idiotic belief that dynamic works in a group)
Males and females compliment each other in a Ying-Yang relationship. We can each bring something to the table and supply something missing in the other, and vice versa. There are some things women do better than men, and some thing men do better at than women.
Smart, intelligent men and women recognize this fact, and accept it. In healthy male-female relationships, both recognize this as fact...and are better for it.
The mistake ideologues (almost entirely on the Left) make is assuming that benefit scales into all facets of society and culture, and it does not. It doesn’t mean what they assert in their asinine claims of “strength in diversity”.
It means that in a bonded couple.
It doesn’t mean that in combat, or a number of any other things. And pretending it does is going to get people killed.
You did an excellent job of explaining the M/F pairing. This is a very important concept.
The Chinese have it right. It is such an important concept because it's not just about our relationships.
Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING is the UNIVERSE is based on this coupling..
You, I, the Internet, Commercial Airliners, the computers we use.... None of that would exist if not for the pairing concept.
The best way I can help others see what I mean (I know you already get it) is the SINE WAVE.
The mistake ideologues (almost entirely on the Left) make is thinking that declaring Equality for men and women means that a person’s position in the bell curve changes.