Oh, great, now you've went and done it. You've got me feeling sorry for you, dangit. You sound like someone who's been hauled before the local commissars, who stands there hat in hand, pleading for understanding, like a whupped whelp, offering up typical beaten child defenses like "but Ivan said that Vanya was mean and no one got mad at Ivan for saying that..."
You should change your monicker to "sadrussian", or else you should divorce yourself from the reproach of that which you endured while living under communist rule. Be a man, dammit! I hate feeling sorry for someone I'm arguing with!