What kind of life is that? I think it depends on what kind of "black dude" she likes to go with, or do you only know about one kind?
(That being said, 13 is too young to be going out with any "dude." I'd be more concerned about that than who she's going out with)
ANY 13 year old talking like she was (see above) NEEDS fatherly advice, and fast......because she's made it clear what kind of dude she's interested in....read ALL the post before getting on your high horse, please.