I'm sure she feels so badly that her friend was taken - what could she have done better so that didn't happen...you know the thought process...
At, at least if she feels like her help was so valuable, it might make things easier on her feelings of being helpless in that situation. Am I making sense???
P.S. Sunshine...does your screen name mean that you love the sun like I do, AND that you were perhaps born in the great year of 1955 like me??? --Just curious