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My take? Don't screw around out of wedlock

that's nice. and what about the guys who are married. One third of american women divorce their husband before the kids get to be teenagers, then the law aids them in kicking the husband out of the house, then the law aids them in taking money from the husband until the kids are 21 or so. If the man can't pay he goes to jail. Many men are forcefully taken away from their children and then threatened with jail if they don't pay a certain fee every month. What smart comments do you have about all of this? Are you going to tell us to not get married if we don't like it?

Like was said in post #59, "pick your wife wisely".

No you can't forsee every circumstance but you can minimize future problems by marrying someone of character, faith, and a high level of commitment. To marry someone without those only opens you up for future problems.

Personally I think a major part of the problem is no fault divorce. Some people have the idea that, gee I'm bored, time to go on elsewhere. I also think that part of the problem is that many have forgotten what the covenant of marriage is about, something about "for better, for worse".

Semper Fi

No, I will not tell you to not get married if you don't like the picture you paint. I would suggest though if you are not yet married, or if you are divorced (you may have already figured this out by now...)that you very carefully consider whom you are dating, and why--is it just for sex? Well, see suggestion #1--don't screw around unmarried and its corrolary for the wedded--don't screw around outside of your marriage. The bottom line is that the men and women of this country need to be more careful of whom they choose to wed. Most folks I know who got divorced, made bad choices in a lifemate. They essentially got married for sexual reasons and immaturity, and have since paid the price.

As for the child custody issue you raise--I might surprise you--I have known some fathers who are better parents than the kids mothers. I don't see a problem with a man getting primary custody, provided he is the better parent. In which case, the woman would have to pay child support.