From my experience in peace and war, I believe that nothing happens without the hand of God.
My complaint is really with the phrase "Thank God it wasn't me who was shot, killed, whatever----. God was watching over me." It's as tho God was only looking out for the speaker, and not the others, and I don't believe that is so.
I know kindly people use that phrase without thinking, because they are thankful that they lived through something terrible, but it bothers me.
I agree with you 100%, although I must say my only experience is that of peace. A peace which you and those like you have given us. On behalf of my wife, myself, and our three little boys I just tucked into bed...Thank you so much, and may God bless you and your family.