The use of the term "homophobe" is an indicator of a larger problem--lots of conservatives seem to have adopted the language and values of the liberals. Calling someone who opposes the homosexual political agenda a "homophobe" is unproductive, because it seeks to shift the debate to what the person's emotions or motives are rather than the ideas at hand. I could just as easily assert that the pro-gay elements on FR are "Christophobes" or "heterophobes."
For the record, I have nothing against individual homosexuals. Before anyone laughs at my statement, consider that there is a difference between the political and the personal. I can oppose the political designs of a group, and still interact on a daily basis civilly and amicably with individuals from that group. I'm sure that by the luck of the draw I've worked alongside gays in the past, and that's never been a problem or an issue.
I always treat the people I meet with respect, regardless of their political (or other) persuasions, because it's not personal. When it comes time to do my political thing at the ballot box, or in a letter to the editor, or an FR forum post, I'll do my thing, and they can do theirs.