[Qwerty]

"Poor Girl"

That's how I like it. Niiiiiice and patronizing...

"You are confused!"

Thanks for your uninformed opinion.

"What you are experiencing is a loss of paternal identification at a very early age. Sometime when you were very small, you were unable to look up to a father figure with a sense of adoration and desire for his attention."

Are you seriously trying to psychoanalyze a complete stranger?

"Either he wasn't there, he didn't care, or your mother stepped between you."

Don't let me get in the way of your fantasies.

"You were NOT born that way"

You don't know that.

"Now, you can choose to remain where you are, or you can take the steps that are necessary to realize a fulfilling life."

I'm sure you think you're helpful, but you aren't.

"Sure! you say... fulfilling!! "As if my life isn't fulfilling as a lesbian!..heh heh..er..umm..."

Well.. I guess I don't even need to respond since you're happy to carry on an imaginary conversation with an imaginary me.. one complete with an imaginary distant or absent father.

"Sorry girl. I know a number of lesbians and NONE of them know fulfillment."

They must never have tried a fulfilling, patronizing relationship with you.

"They try to convince themselves, but they are missing something. No.. not a man. A fulfilling relationship with a man."

Maybe you're missing out on a fulfilling relationship with a man.

"The APA did you a big disservice when they let your predecessors take homosexuality off the list."

This has been discussed ad nauseum by me on other threads. Suffice it to say, your side lost, is continuing to lose, and will fall further and further behind.

"I hope that some day you open your eyes and step out of that cage."

Yeah, I've been thinking that I'm tired of this apartment too... the management here is awful.

[Paloma_55]

Hey Qwerty,

I know it must be tough to have someone psychoanalyze you over the web... even worse when down deep you know they are right.

Its not that difficult to do. I have known quite a few lesbians and homosexuals in my life. I grew up in the 60s and watched the whole "sexual revolution" take place right in front of my eyes. I had friends "come out" and I have relatives that have switched hitting.

The old saying "If it walks like a duck..." applies here.

I have seen quite a few ducks now. I know a few lesbians today that are living in relationships with women and are just as miserable as they were when they were with men. When they first switched, they somehow thought it was "men" that was the problem. Turns out, it was their ability to get close to men.

As for the "they are getting closer to finding a gay gene", are they are getting closer to finding the "wife beating" gene too? How about the "child abuse" gene?

Face it, you don't remember what happened to you when you were three. You don't remember the circumstance that led you to reject affection from a man. Perhaps it was avoiding something you could not achieve.

There have been studies on this and they are much closer to proving homosexuality stems from early childhood mis-identification than they are a "gay gene".

There is always a chance to pull out. Some day perhaps.