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Your description of the sudden death of a loved one is right on the mark. My son was killed in a car accident when he was 18, so I have been thru it too. The tears she is crying are healing, if she can cry, thats good. She will need loving friends or a year or 2. Call her or see her everyday, if you can, if only for a minute or 2. Maybe she will want to talk about her son, maybe not, be flexiable. Not knowing this woman, I am not sure I would recommend drugs. My best to your friend & her family.

Thanks for your thoughtful, insightful comments. A long time ago when I was a young mother, I lost two baby boys. Long story. Matthew was three days old when he died and Mark was still-born. Anyway, in order to survive the funeral and all the torment, my doctor gave me something to get me through. I forget the name of it. I only had to take it a few times. I'm not proud that I needed a drug but on the other hand I'm not ashamed either. I don't know how I would have been able to sleep . . . and you have to sleep in order to get better. Anyway, that was a long time ago and I survived. I will call Mary tonight and check on her. May the Good Lord bless us all as we strive day by day to be better.