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True - because every divorce does, in fact, have someone to blame - often both parties. Divorce in this country is far to simple.

Our society has developed into a bunch of people who demand IMMEDIATE satisfaction. Whether it is getting quick cash at an ATM, quick seating in a restaurant, FedEx overnight delivery of that special gift, etc. We simply want everything right now. Combine this trait with the fairly recent development of a "throwaway" society - single use products, disposable razors, disposable autos, etc. It's no wonder divorce is so common.

You buy a new car. Just a few years down the road, the warranty is out and you start to have mechanical problems. The cost of repairing begins to outweigh the benefits of just getting a new car.

The 'ole computer is getting a bit slow - after all, it's nearly two years old. Sure it still works with little trouble - but it's just far slower than the new models - Run out and buy a new one.

That wife sure seemed great when you first met her - attractive, smart, and fun to be around. Of course, after just a few years, that perky personality has turned from cute to irritating. We use to have "relations" regularly and passionately before our wedding. Now, just a couple of years later - what little there is is so bland and predictable. The 'ole wife has also put on a few pounds.... Oh well, I like the look of the newer models. Let's get a divorce.

Of course that last example goes both ways - but still, the general mentality of a throw-away, gotta have it NOW society is showing it's ugly side.

The value of marriage has also been degraded - both from the Homosexual agenda and from the media's presentation of the screwed-up family. The government rewards women who have children out of marriage with monthly payments.

People forget that marriage is a responsibility. If you enter into the COVENANT (also known as a contract or agreement) of marriage, you have a responsibility to do everything in your power to protect and maintain (even grow) the relationship. Ask any of the "old-timers" who have been married for 50+ years about the relationship - I guarantee that both parties would agree that they had hard times and times that they were very tired of each other - but they persevered.

The absence of God in a relationship also adds difficulty to a marriage. I thank God every day that I found a wife who can put up with me - even when I am a blooming idiot.

My wife and I dated for a year and a half before we were married. I think getting to know someone before you marry them is of utmost importance. Dr. Laura preaches that you should date for at least two years before getting engaged. This is not bad advice. Unfortuantely for those who are members of the church of instant gratification, this takes too much time.

My wife is my best friend. One of my sisters put it succintly for me once when she indicated that I would have to marry a special person, since no one else would put up with me. Well I did marry someone special, and I admit that I am not the easiest person to put up with. Whenever I get irritated, I stop and think what my wife has to put up with. Then I start feeling sorry for my wife...

Latest (non-randomized unscientific) Poll Results

Blame Hollywood: 0%
Divorce is too easy to obtain: 3%
Men behaving badly: 3%
Women behaving badly: 6%
Unrealistic Expections/Lack of preparation: 39%
No Stigma about divorce/Lack of marriage support: 48%

What? No one blaming Hollywood? I'm shocked!

Seriously, thanks everyone. This has been a very educational thread. Several important insights have been posted.