Posted on 06/01/2003 5:24:54 AM PDT by Theodore R.
The little darlings have to learn it somewhere. ;-)
ROFL!! My mother tried that with my brother, right under the arm. He started to scream bloody murder, "You're PINCHING me!" Poor woman was beside herself.
Do you and your son have a fairly consistant routine for the day? If you're kind of relaxed and easy going it might help to have more of a schedule. It sometimes helps when they know what to expect. My son behaved terribly when he was caught off guard by an unexpected errand, delayed nap or meal. And it would unsettle him for the rest of the day.
"And he can do both outside," the teacher responded. ;-)
The teacher pointed out that, even if it didn't affect the singing student, it did distract the other students, and it wasn't going to continue. :-D
What worked better was when I pointed out that, if the student's test grades were any indication, he couldn't sing and pay attention at the same time.
I also started calling Dad at work every time the student disrupted class. ;-)
Very creative way to encourage parent participation. LOL
Good for you!
I think ignoring a tantrum is best because like you said, you really can't fight them then and why let your own temper get out of control? Sometimes just leaving the room and let them regain control works as well as anything and if they get no reward ---positive or negative, they'll drop having tantrums as a way to get their own way.
Of course we don't know all the facts ---just the teacher's description of his behavior ---he used terms like "kiss my butt" and "you ugly faggot" which he had to learn from somewhere ---maybe home. My kids learned plenty of bad words in two languages by that age --and they'll try most of the words at least once. I think in this case the teacher wanted a long medical leave ---it would be interesting to know how other adults view this child before deciding --- the kid probably knew he had control and was just taking advantage --- he doesn't sound like the sweetest 5 year old you'd care to meet but pushing and shoving and punching at that age isn't that unusual. A coworker's son recently got in trouble ---in the 6th grade for giving a girl a "wedgie" which the teachers called sexual abuse --- but they have a co-ed playground instead of doing the smart thing and segregating the kids ---because in the past that was considered the sensible thing because boys play rough.
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