I thought FReepers were above the "blame the victim" game, but I guess not.
For someone who doens't have a medical license, this "husband" has a lot of nerve trying to "prescribe" ANY prescription meds to his wife (or anyone else)without her consent or knowledge. For all he knew, she could have had a violent allergic to it or something. That stuff is pretty potent stuff. If she had ended up in hospital seriously sick, don't think an attempted murder charge would be far behind.
My husband took one after some dental surgery once and he was OUT COLD. After that he refused to ever take it again. He would rather suffer w/ some pain than be in a brainless fog.
Vicodin is not something to play games with. I agree with you on one point though. If he really wanted to mellow her out, he should have taken her to nice restaurant, ordered her a glass of wine (or something with chocolate in it) and left it at that.
I think jail time would do him some good because it looks like HE's the one who needs to mellow out, not her.
I thought FReepers were above the "blame the victim" game, but I guess not.
As with all arguments (especially between spouses), there are 2 sides...and then there's the truth. In almost ALL cases, both sides are somewhat wrong. If this guy was henpecked, isn't the hen a bit to blame? NO, it is no excuse for what he did - that was wrong. I come from a family with lots of medical education and experience, and I'd be among the last to play with medications. But this wasn't a bolt from the blue - her nagging had to have taken place over a period of years or decades. Bothering someone you are supposed to love and care for a great deal, to the point that he is so bothered by your nagging that he feels he has no other option - that deserves some blame also. And on his side, he DIDN'T go further - he didn't poison her, hit her, etc. Against him is that he might be a lazy bum that never does anything around the house-or maybe a few things, but never enough to satisfy her. You see, it is complicated and there is almost certainly blame enough to go around.
I was NOT blaming the victim, which is something that I'm very much against. I just believe in analyzing ALL sides of a disagreement/conflict, as in almost such instances there are aggrieved parties on all sides. To paraphrase my wife, I am sure that this lady was no white dove, either.
I'll stick with no jail time - a judge should force them to go through marriage counseling.