Yes, I agree. The reality is that we got where we are now because of a zillion little choices that have been freely made by hundreds of millions of American men and women in the last 50 or 60 years. And the vast majority of those choices were probably made by people who had never read any of the "feminist" books that were written.
If all of these folks were such big fans of Betty Friedan, how come it's never been terribly fashionable to look like her?
People are not made of clay. Only the utopians think that a society can be sculpted with books.
As for looks, I always thought Gloria Steinem was attractive.
But Helen Gurley Brown will forever
be a pumpkin head on a stick figure.