There may be some truth in that, but I prefer to think in terms of moral responses to being mugged by reality. Be moral but tough in all your dealings. You are not going to stop Islamic terror masters by closing the borders or by nuking oil-rich countries run by insane dictators. If the only remaining option is regime change, install new regime with some liberality and try for a regional transformation.
However, there is some truth to the accusation that USA is becoming an empire. But the phrase "empire of liberty" goes back to the first century of our republic.
There's an option you left out - like buying oil from them and not meddling in their affairs or stationing troops on their soil, neither of which is necessary. It's called peaceful relations with all. Also do not forget that the US has a history of regime change in the region and none of it has been successful to date. Chances are continued attempts will only bring more aggrivation than pleasant results.