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The Selfish Child
San Francisco Chronicle ^
| 8/31/03
| Robert Shaw
Posted on 08/31/2003 9:20:30 AM PDT by I_Love_My_Husband
Edited on 04/13/2004 2:43:30 AM PDT by Jim Robinson.
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To: MeeknMing
general interest ping
long article but interesting
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Very interesting, thanks for posting this. It's about time someone wrote this book.
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:31:45 AM PDT
by
jocon307
To: I_Love_My_Husband
bkmk
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:32:18 AM PDT
by
riri
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Shaw admits to a nagging fear of being "lynched in his hometown": Berkeley What's amazing is nowhere does he mention creating a new government program or raising taxes. He must live in Berkeley because as a psychiatrist that's where his customers are.
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:33:39 AM PDT
by
Reeses
To: netmilsmom
ping
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:34:39 AM PDT
by
Fraulein
(TCB)
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Shaw's book, "The Epidemic: The Rot of American Culture, Absentee and Permissive Parenting, and the Resultant Plague of Joyless, Selfish Children," Wow. I may have to buy this book.
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Thanks !
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:39:15 AM PDT
by
MeekOneGOP
(Check out the Texas Chicken D 'RATS!: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/keyword/Redistricting)
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Fascinating. Thanks for posting this.
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:40:17 AM PDT
by
EggsAckley
(......Thank you for not excerpting.......[unless it's required].......~</;o))
To: I_Love_My_Husband; Alamo-Girl; onyx; SpookBrat; Republican Wildcat; Howlin; Fred Mertz; ...
Please let me know if you want ON or OFF my General Interest ping list!. . .don't be shy.
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:41:02 AM PDT
by
MeekOneGOP
(Check out the Texas Chicken D 'RATS!: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/keyword/Redistricting)
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Bump for later.
Looks very interesting
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:41:26 AM PDT
by
don-o
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Can you go to stores, restaurants or libraries without seeing these joyless children screaming, throwing food or pulling packages or books off shelves? I see this almost everytime I go shopping or to certain restaurants; usually, the parents' solution is to buy the child something.
To: I_Love_My_Husband
My son was in daycare and then private school all his life. He was well-behaved and a good student in prvate school. He now has a good job and a wife who he met in private school.
At this late date, though, he complains about not having spent enough time with me as a child. His private school did have a lot of hoemwork, so a lot of our time together was spent working on that rather than fun activities.
Although he didn't act out after the terrible twos, I wonder now if my own boredom with the public schools as a child caused me to want something for him that he didn't really want. He is very athletic, and maybe he would have been happier with more sports and a shallower education. His sporting events away from school created transportation problems, so that if I was tied up he had to take a cab. In public school, he could have just got on the after-school bus like the band members and athletes did when I was a kid. Also in retrospect, he might have preferred the larger crowds n public school. I just assumed that, like me, he would tire of waiting for the slower students to keep up.
I think is a strange outcome of wanting something for your child that you wanted for yourself. He definitely was a privileged child, bu still he wanted more.
To: I_Love_My_Husband
My son was in daycare and then private school all his life. He was well-behaved and a good student in prvate school. He now has a good job and a wife who he met in private school.
At this late date, though, he complains about not having spent enough time with me as a child. His private school did have a lot of hoemwork, so a lot of our time together was spent working on that rather than fun activities.
Although he didn't act out after the terrible twos, I wonder now if my own boredom with the public schools as a child caused me to want something for him that he didn't really want. He is very athletic, and maybe he would have been happier with more sports and a shallower education. His sporting events away from school created transportation problems, so that if I was tied up he had to take a cab. In public school, he could have just got on the after-school bus like the band members and athletes did when I was a kid. Also in retrospect, he might have preferred the larger crowds n public school. I just assumed that, like me, he would tire of waiting for the slower students to keep up.
I think is a strange outcome of wanting something for your child that you wanted for yourself. He definitely was a privileged child, bu still he wanted more.
To: I_Love_My_Husband
BUMP
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:51:27 AM PDT
by
GrandMoM
("What is impossible with men is possible with GOD -Luke 18:27)
To: I_Love_My_Husband
Great article - worth the long read. How many of us know children like he describes? Can think of 8-9 myself which is sad.
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posted on
08/31/2003 9:56:08 AM PDT
by
Gerish
To: All
btt
To: Fraulein
Thanks for the ping!
I got really beat up on the last thread (in fact they are still doing it!) so I won't comment on this one.
But you know how I feel!!!!
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posted on
08/31/2003 10:03:21 AM PDT
by
netmilsmom
(Hand me my smelling salts.)
Comment #19 Removed by Moderator
To: I_Love_My_Husband
"Palatable labels ranging from "high-energy" to "hyperactive" to "temperamental" to "oppositional" are bandied about like personality traits that must be tolerated."
Ummm..."personality traits" such as those mentioned were NOT tolerated when I grew up! After a nasty bout of 'oppositional' or 'temperamental', I found myself wanting to just stand up rather than sit...for about a week, usually. My mama's 'medicine' was stout stuff.
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posted on
08/31/2003 10:20:52 AM PDT
by
Maria S
("..I think the Americans are serious. Bush is not like Clinton. I think this is the end" Uday H.)
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