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As someone who does divorces, I am always amazed at how I can get a couple to jointly come into my office and act like the best of friends, having all of their issues resolved, even regarding custody. I always ask them if they have tried counseling, but it is one of those "fallen out of love" b.s. stories. But the Armstrong's problems are probably something that has developed and festered for a period of years. For every day/month/year you let a problem fester and corrupt a marriage, it takes that long to work things out. A lot of people just don't want to put in the effort.

My wife's family dragged me to a Gothard Institute seminar a few years ago, pre-marriage. I kind of thought it was a joke, but one thing I took from it and still do every day is this: Every day, look into the mirror and say, "I love my wife" (or husband, as it may be). Do that when you're mad, do it after sex, do it when you come home from work. I think that it really works, and would advise it to all.

For every day/month/year you let a problem fester and corrupt a marriage, it takes that long to work things out. A lot of people just don't want to put in the effort.
Every day, look into the mirror and say, "I love my wife" (or husband, as it may be). Do that when you're mad, do it after sex, do it when you come home from work. I think that it really works, and would advise it to all.

Thanks for posting this.

I know this isn't your story, but I just gotta say...

The necessity of pre-marriage counseling (the kind to repair issues) is nature's way of saying "Don't get married to that person".

The last couple I know who married in spite of the above, well, let's just say my hangover lasted longer than the nuptials.