[visualops]

FR is a Godsend in more ways than one, and we very much appreciate all the help and prayers from everyone here.

Regarding "need to know", I realize it's my perception, just trying to get across how I feel.

I'm surprized regarding your comment on Stickman's annulment, the Deacon gave us the opposite impression, that mine might be simple and his complex. They said they have to contact the ex-spouses...despite that we both have issues with contact of that nature with them, and neither are Catholic, and my ex has remarried.

The thing is, we *do* want to attend the RCIA this September, even if we can't get Confirmed and complete the whole thing at the end. The priest is the one supposedly saying we *shouldn't*, that we can take some "adult classes" if we want. I'm not sure why we would have to take it again though.

My thought is we need all of us (Us and Deacon & priest)get together and get it all straightened out.

[TheStickman]

Methinks you mis-read sinkspur's post. He's actually suggesting your annulment can be done in a day and mine will take 18 to 24 months. Though that still seems incredibly long since there are no witnesses and my ex is apt to just ignore the questionaire when it is sent.

[sinkspur]

I'm surprized regarding your comment on Stickman's annulment, the Deacon gave us the opposite impression, that mine might be simple and his complex

My phrasing was poor; yours will be simple, and Stickman's will be more complex.

[dsc]

"They said they have to contact the ex-spouses..."

Eh? I had my marriage to a Japanese person regularized, and they never contacted my spouse at all.

I guess they're used to having one spouse convert and the other not here in Japan.