Personally I believe God is a spirit, and has no body, nor need for sexual organs. God is referred to as a father, for that is how God acts. God is referred to in masculine terms, because men were the ones writing. However, Jesus most definitely was male...I'll give you that.
I think it is clear that God is to be seen as possessing, in part, characteristics of both man and women.
Jesus, although very aggressive and bold, is also very caring. Jesus in Matthew and Luke shows His nurturing side:
34"O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones God's messengers! How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn't let me. 35And now look, your house is left to you empty. And you will never see me again until you say, `Bless the one who comes in the name of the Lord!'[d] " (Luke 13)
Also, do you really believe your tagline, or was it to show the sexual identity problems of Kurt Cobaine? I am not trying to judge him; I saw on a documentary that he had problems with masculinity.