I believe in ecumenism. I believe Pope Benedict will build a bridge, but you're going to have to cross it to get to him. John Paull II labored unceasingly, but after thirty years, the SSPX did what in response? Sounds like you want all the heavy-lifting and compromising to come from the Vatican. Not gonna happen.
The well-wishes of SSPX are conditional, not absolute. Come back into full communion with Rome as she is, not as you want her to be.