So you assume that MOSTS priests are homosexual, or are tolerant of such behavior? I've lived in 5 states, been a member of 7 different parishes, and I can honestly say that there has only been ONE priest who I have ever known about which I had any feelings of unease. I have known MANY priests, having grown up one block from the Parish church and having one or more Pastors or Associates at our house for dinner, then marrying a man whose brother is a priest, and knowing many of the priests in HIS diocese. So, though I read about, and have heard about this problem from my b-i-l, I don't think it is NEARLY as widespread as many seem to believe.
Actually, you're both right, funny though that may seem.
The situation in the Church is a little like that in wider society. Gays tend to congregate in certain areas.
If you're in a certain area of San Francisco you might not see any homosexuals and say to yourself "who says this is the gay capital of the world? I don't see any gays." Go a few more blocks into the Castro and nearly everyone is gay.
It's like that in the Church too. Certain dioceses have a high prevalence of homosexuals. Others have a much lower prevalence. There are "hot spots", in other words. Now depending on where you are, in relation to those hot spots, your view of the Church will vary. To one person, the Church is overrun with homos. To another, the whole thing is wildly exaggerated.
Homos like to go where other homos are. The Church is no different.
Two things concern me. First of all, the number of priests involved in incidents, Second the relative lack of participation by the Church in the political efforts to limit marriage to men and women. Now comes a brouhaha about a mild instruction about homosexuality from the Vatican. But, as they say, time will tell. It will be interesting to see what results from the investigation of the archdiocese of Los Angeles.