My Compassion and prayers are for all, especially those who are greatly burdened - no matter the gravity of their sin. I do not agree with many, many, many things they say and do [judging the actions wrong]... but I remind myself often, God is to judge their hearts, not me.
It's a fine line for "good" sinners, "us", and the "bad" sinners, "those gays" etc.” [tongue n' cheek]
Christ said He came for the unrighteous not just the righteous.
That statement is in error (I don't get the tongue n' cheek part), weakened by postmodern thought. Yes, we are all sinners. But no, we are not all guilty of everything, and all is not equal. One sin doesn't excuse another sin, and the fact that we are all sinners leaves us all guilty, not all innocent. It does nothing to cure the problem of the heart, nor does it make any one sinner less guilty of his particular sin.
Your statement reminds me of the way liberals talk about the issue of terrorism. There is clear guilt and innocence on the issue of terrorism. That's not to say that we are perfect. But there is plenty of clarity between good and evil, right and wrong, for a judgment to be made. It helps no one to blame the innocent. In fact, it only emboldens the guilty.
The problem with forming your diagnosis entirely around the testimony of the sinner is that it ignores the big theological picture. Sinners rarely think they are to blame. Go counsel prisoners and find out how many think they are actually guilty of the crime for which they were convicted by a jury. They're in good company. Eve said, it's the serpent who tricked me. Adam said, it's the woman that you gave me. We all love to blame others. Notice that the ultimate blame always goes back to God.
Imagine if therapists and lawyers were around when Adam and Eve sinned. God would be sued and the therapists would give testimony against Him, charging Him with unfair judgment.
No, the sinner rarely takes the blame. So beware of drawing your fundamental conclusions from them. Gain, insight, but get your wisdom from Scripture, at least if it's a Christian solution you seek. Accepting your own guilt is essential. God will not ignore a broken and contrite heart. We must first see our own spiritual bankruptcy before the gospel message can take root.
After they begin to deal with their own sinful hearts, some apologies to those who have been hurt by their sin would also be great. Send them out to confess their sins to those they've harmed and to apologize. Now that would be some testimony, and it would go a long way to helping right their wrongs -- a lot further than preaching about how it wasn't really their fault to begin with. Telling school children they have a choice is NOT the answer. You will confuse more than you set straight. Broaden your scope a little.
While I apply this to the sin of homosexuality, every sinner everywhere needs to examine himself and face his own guilt -- not other people's guilt. We should have mercy on other sinners -- especially those who admit their guilt -- but always with the clarity of God's truth, never allowing the fact that we all have a sin problem to blur the lines and provide exuses.